If you ask me to tell you about my family, i would say it´s composed by my mom, my dad and my grandmother (my mom´s mom, of course). I´m the only¨"child" (even if i turn 60, i still will be a child for them); however, i´ve got about... 25 cousins? I´m not sure. Now, if you ask me about my extended family, wow! My dad has four sisters and three brothers (there´s the origin of the 25 other people with whom i share part of my genetics). The last time we have been all together was for my grandparents´ death, seven years ago. People say that weddings and funerals get the family together and - i think - it´s true (even if your cousins don´t invite you to their weddings). Nobody had passed away ever since: bad news fly faster than the good ones (considerating that after the weddings children don´t wait much time to come: six new kids. My cousins are making babies!).
By my "other" side, my mom only has one sister who also only has one daughter. I don´t know much about my grandfather lately; he left my grandma thirty years ago and the relationship between him and his daughters is not the best (nor good). I haven´t seem him since i was 10; and it´s understandable: he has his "new family" (it sounds like the women he left were a pair of shoes). Since then (although i haven´t borned yet), it would be appriopiated to say that we´re a "girly" family, women´s zone, near to feminism (even if my grandma have not never thought on that hahaha - Sorry, dad!)
Where the hell is the love between all these? I don´t like to think about my family as my relatives. Much better is describe them as the people i love, no matter what the family book says. Probably, part of my DNA ties me to another 40 or 50 people and we share the same blood (or blood group, at least), but i don´t feel especially related to them. It doesn´t mean i don´t care about them (I don´t want to sound bitchy or individualist), but they´re like those neighbors or ex-classmates from High School ...
Who said that parents have to love their kids? Who said that kids have to love their parents? I remember there's a book about that or,at least, with that title.
When i think about "family" i can't avoid thinking about Religion: the family is the society's foundation, sex is for reproduction. Also, public politics here in Chile are focused on the family and not on communities (Chili is as such as traditional country).
BLAH!
I'm not agree with these approaches. Basically, because in my opinion: 1)Family is composed by love and commitment. Its beginning is not the Family-Book but the generosity and reciprociy (i support the responsible gay-parenting and maternity for lesbians). 2)Despite love is an abstract concept, no matter this, a family can be composed by people who love and care about each other (so, why would be wrong say that friends are my family?). 3) Love is not an idyllic reality, it's full of mistakes, doubts, joys... and life. 4) The marriage is a law, not the nucleo of the family.
What do you think?
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